The next letter is “O.” The letter “O” stands for the other. We must commit ourselves to our mate. When Susie and I married, we made a commitment to never use the word divorce. We have had blizzard conditions in our marriage, but we were committed to be faithful to one another.
The letter “V” stands for value your mate. With most couples I counsel, the No. 1 failure in the marriage is lack of feeling valued or appreciated. The husband works all day. The wife works all day. When they get home, they enter a battle of critical communication. Nothing makes a couple experience healing faster than feeling valued. The simple little words, “I love you,” are like rock salt to melt hurtful relationships. Susie and I must say to each other, “I love you,” a dozen times a day.
The “E” stands for energy. Marriages just don’t happen. A healthy marriage requires tons of work. Creating a happy marriage requires lots of work. A happy marriage is not on fantasy island. A couple never knows what might happen that could dramatically affect their marriage. A car wreck, a terminal illness, financial difficulties — all can put tremendous pressure on a relationship.
Love is a tremendous power to heal your marriage.
Marital roads ahead may be snow covered, slick and hazardous. Slow down. Pray for your mate. Go on a date and tell your mate, “I love you.” “I appreciate you.”When you have been married 48 years and your mate is your very best friend, you will see the value of treasuring your marriage.— Mike Goforth, Boone County Sheriff’s Office chaplain and co-pastor of Household of Love and Faith.