Clinical psychologist Dr. Greg Sipes was the keynote speaker at Judge David’s 14th Community In-Service Wednesday at the Boone County 4-H Fairgrounds. After his keynote address, Sipes moderated a student/parent panel discussion on helicopter parenting.
The key to Sipes’ presentation was the phrase, “how you ‘see’ determines what you ‘see,’ which then determines what you will ‘do.’”Panelists included parents Bret Bayston and Heather Schaller, and students Grace Bayston and Rein Schaller, from Lebanon; parent Neal Randolph and students Olivia Randolph and Jonathon Morales, from Western Boone; and from Zionsville parents Jim Schillaci and Sharon Cornacchini and students Dixe Schillaci and Siena Cornacchini.
Sipes posed questions for the students, for the parents and for both groups, that ranged from their response to hypothetical situations to “one thing that your parent does that drives you crazy.”One of his children, at age 17, was found loading wood and cement into a pickup. Sipes asked him why.“We’re building a beer shed,” the boy replied.“What do you do, guys?” Sipes asked the parents — saying he’d tell them how he dealt with the situation after they responded.“When I was 17, the consequences for getting in trouble for drinking were much less than they are now,” Sharon Cornacchini of Zionsville said. “I would not let him take the materials; that would buy a little bit of time to figure out what the next step was.”“I would hope I could be at least a little bit effective in helping them stop and think about what it would mean for their future,” Bret Bayston, Lebanon, said. “We can’t stop them from drinking.”Sipes said he told his son, “don’t drink and drive. If you’re going to do that, just stay there.”His son is now an attorney, and was one of the top five graduates in his class, Sipes said.