Would the parents “bail out” a child if he or she had gotten to school to find they’d left something at home?, Sipes asked.
Perhaps, said some. It would depend on the child’s prior behavior, said others.“A lot of kids are over-programmed,” Jim Schillaci said. “They’re running 110 percent and something slips between the cracks ... Sometimes, you have to let them fail.”Sipes asked the parents if they would want to know the truth about a party where there would be alcohol and perhaps drugs.“There’s a lot of bad repercussions,” Heather Schaller said. “I hope that if they knew there were a party like that, they wouldn’t have an interest in going. Maybe I’m naive.”“I would hope,” she said, “they would talk with me about it.”What happens if a parent does get a 2 a.m. phone call from a deputy who says he has their child in his car, Sipes asked.“That’s a tough one,” Bayston said. “Obviously, there are going to be legal consequences. We’ll be there to support, and to pick up the pieces once it’s done.”“Do you get them out of it?” Sipes asked.“No,” Bayston said.
It would be better to avoid the temptation, Grace Bayston said.“I think it’s really important to surround yourself ... with people that won’t put you in that situation,” she said.“I just don’t go,” Dixe Schillaci said. “It’s gotten to the point in high school now that I’m never sure, and it’s not worth it.”What parental action makes the students crazy?Schillici said she visits an online site that posts students’ grades “four times a day,” and “I don’t need somebody checking it four times a day, too.”“You rock, dad; you’re totally great,” she told her father. But when she gets a grade lower than expected, she said, “I already feel that bad, and I don’t need you to load that on me.”Schallici has been accepted to Yale.